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Children (and adults) do wrong things. They’re disciplined and made to suffer the consequences. Yet when a child cries and apologizes, her parent hugs and forgives her. Both of them can then smile and rejoice for their restored relationship. Making peace like this scenario works, but we’re not perfect.
How Not to Forgive
When we forgive someone, do we restore that person fully, or do we secretly hold a grudge and make him (or her) pay? Do we continue to make him suffer for his sins, keeping records, rubbing his nose in his misdeeds, and extending less freedom and privileges?
Granting forgiveness is difficult if a person has sinned against us or a loved one. However, the Apostle Paul would later write,
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. (1Corinthians 13:4-7, NIV)
As we learned in our last Bible study, when David sinned, he felt so guilty that it affected his health. Then, using an allegorical story, the prophet Nathan pointed him out as guilty of adultery and murder.
Consequences doesn’t mean we’re not forgiven
God forgives David, but he must suffer severe consequences for his sins. Despite David’s fasting, his firstborn son dies
(2Samuel 12:10-14). More penalties will soon follow, which’ll devastate his family and threaten his kingdom and his life.
Although God and others forgive us, we might also suffer repercussions, not out of spite, but from natural consequences and justice.
Compassion and Restoration
When someone hurts or harms us, and then grieves about it and seeks amends, we need to restore him. We need to pray for a particular measure of Christ’s love if Satan and our human nature tempt us not to forgive.
Jesus wants us to love others as he loves us
(John 15:12).
He died on the cross of Calvary for our sins, so we might be made righteous. We only need to turn to God from our sins and accept his gift of love to receive a pardon. When he cleanses us from sin, he doesn’t keep records of our offenses—he cancels our debts (Acts 3:19). We need to do the same.
David wrote Psalm 103 in remembrance of the time the LORD forgave him for his sins of adultery and murder. He says,
The LORD is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love. He will not always accuse, nor will he harbor his anger forever; he does not treat us as our sins deserve or repay us according to our iniquities. For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his love for those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.
As a father has compassion on his children, so the LORD has compassion on those who fear him; for he knows how we are formed, he remembers that we are dust. (Psalm 103:8-14, NIV)
God shows his compassionate love to a broken and remorseful king. This same love is what he shows to everyone who will turn from his sins and seek the LORD for forgiveness (more...).
When we are compassionate to those who are sorry for their sins, we are like God.
How does God restore King David? He lifts him off his knees and face, stands him up, and gives him a mission to fight against the LORD’s enemies. The LORD gives him success and even the gold crown of the king of the Ammonites.
The Psalmist said, “God ... redeems your life from the pit and crowns you with love and compassion” (Psalm 103:4, NIV). David further exalts the LORD, saying,
O LORD, the king rejoices in your strength. How great is his joy in the victories you give! You have granted him the desire of his heart and have not withheld the request of his lips.
You welcomed him with rich blessings and placed a crown of pure gold on his head. He asked you for life, and you gave it to him-- length of days, forever and ever.
Through the victories you gave, his glory is great; you have bestowed on him splendor and majesty.
Surely you have granted him eternal blessings and made him glad with the joy of your presence. For the king trusts in the LORD; through the unfailing love of the Most High he will not be shaken. (Psalm 21:1-7, NIV)
Not only does God show his forgiveness and restore King David by giving him great military victories; he also acts with compassion toward Bathsheba and David, giving them a second child, Solomon.
Because the LORD is a God of grace and kindness, he loves Solomon and gives him a glorious future. When he becomes a man, God chooses him to build a temple for the LORD.
How will we show our love for others when we tell them we forgive them? We may not always feel like letting go of our anger and bitterness, but we should show by our actions that we forgive them. Our feelings will eventually follow our actions.
Because God loves us, we should love one another.
Focus Verse
John 15:12 (NIV) [Jesus said] “My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.”
Discussion
How should we not forgive someone? Describe godly restoration.
Why should we forgive and restore someone who has offended us? Under what conditions?
How did God show David that he restored him? How might we show that we have restored a relationship?
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